If my parner of 20 years got bonked on the head, turned straight, and got married to a woman, would you still tell him there isn't money in the budget for his wife's insurance?  Of course not.  If you're going to say the state can't afford it, then you're implying that you want a certain percentage of state employees to be gay so the state doesn't have to pay for extra insurance.  In that case, why don't you at least send me a card thanking me for saving you some cash.